The time each of us has on earth is a wonderful gift which we are supposed to use with the utmost responsibility. In contrast, distractions and bitterness in the past always lead us to a loss of happiness, waste our time, and finally trouble our life. The bitter past is an experience we can take as a lesson. But embracing those bitternesses like the grief of losing a loved one, failure of business, and other painful disappointments is not a good way to change our futures. Because embracing the emotional pain is a wound that needs healing, and the only way to cure nostalgia at this stage is to willingly give up the painful past and look to the present and the future. Everyone’s desire is living free and to achieve their hopes and goals.
Self-Pity: Self-Pity is often a reminder that we always have more difficulties than others around us. We are born unfortunate, never happy. We are always poor and destitute, never having anything like others. The portrait is bad, and doesn’t look pretty. We might think that we are not as highly educated or as smart as others. There are those who break up their marriage and love relationships, or some families who have lost their members in death, lost and scattered in the war, living alone, and so on. Everything we think about is negative, all of which are the wounds that have not healed from the past to the present.
Self-Pity often arises from an emotional state in which we tend to think and compare with materialistic factors and traits that society values, rather than considering the reality and special gifts in ourselves and others. Each one is made different. Some also refer to fake beliefs in destiny designed by karma from fortune-tellers, which are strong psychological factors that have a profound effect on our society.
When we feel self-pity and find ourselves as one of the most suffering people in life, please try to think again and again, looking for reasons that you are unique in life. This can lead our emotions and mind to see our life as happy instead of negative thoughts about ourselves. In fact, each of us has our own unique personality. This is an indisputable fact given by God. When compared to our status according to materialism or society, it will inevitably lead to many differences away from the reality of the essence of our value as a person. Not everyone is in the same situation, or no one really understands what's behind the other person's happiness. So we look for the good and postive in ourselves.
Disappointment: From childhood, the commitment to success is a strength for each person. Any dream always leads us to strive to achieve the goal when we have grown enough and rarely prepare to fail. At a time when our expectations were not met, we were very disappointed. In fact, life is always full of obstacles, just as we are not ready to accept it. We are disappointed in people we trust because they have betrayed us.
"Jesus was betrayed by a disciple, but it turned out to be a wonderful plan for Him!"
Disappointment for the time we spent in vain. The loan from others or the bank to start up a business was lost. We are disappointed because the good plans we made and thought would not be risky, but things turned into chaos!
"Yes, God warns that, something on this earth is impossible!". (Ecclesiastes 5: 16-17)
Disappointment and anger make us hate ourselves for being weak, lacking in leadership and lack of good job management. We can also create hatred for other innocent people as well who are not even involved in our failure. We hate the people around us who do not support us to be successful. Some Christians may even be angry or blame God, which is not reasonable.
This disappointment is a painful emotional feeling, but no matter how many times or failures we face, we still know that our future will always be in God's hands. No circumstance can steal God's plan for our destiny. When we say farewell to all of the past hurtful memories, we are set free.
Farewell to the Pain of Broken Love and Relationships: Many young girls have a crisis due to breakup and have unforgettable pain throughout their lives. At this point, let us think that we can not allow an ordinary person with a bad character or bad attitude to ruin our destiny and future. In front of us are many good people waiting for such an honest and good person like you. We need to start over, taking the old experience as a lesson learned in evaluating and recruiting new people for the new page of our life. Of course, many people start out with a lack of experience. Maybe now we need to start looking and screening the people in another way in our eyes, the true character is not only the body-shape or appearance of those we choose. Therefore, we need to take the lessons we have been through and purify our minds by starting to seek new opportunities, being better people and having a more special character that God has sent for us.
Now we are not alone, we are just going through trials, do not deny the reality of emotional feelings that are hurting us, leaving us in a meaningless life. Pain is so common. It is the consequences when we are carrying the same wounds that everyone has. We used to accidentally cut ourselves with a sharp knife, which hurt our bodies very much. In the same way. Please heal the wounds in your heart from the pain of love and relationships. Do not give an opportunity to the wicked person who does not value others to ruin our future. Everyone has fallen, but now please stand up and move toward the goal God has set for our brighter future.
"Farewell the people who have brought me pain. I will not let this past ruin my life that will cause me to suffer any more. ”
Sometimes we are married, have a family, and still have the unbearable disturbance of a third person who has stolen happiness from the family. They stole a good relationship, causing our couple to break up and not live in harmony. Walk away from such people and think of reunion with our family for prosperity and happiness. It is not too late to do the valuable work for our family.
Farewell to Grief: The sadness that results from the loss and regrets, the old memories, endless sorrows for the lost loved ones that make us hurt, regret and never remove from the memory. Of course, such feelings are there for everyone. But you also have to make a choice to accept the truth and live in the present. Should you, when someone who has died, still grieve for yourself to lose your energy, and lose the opportunity to think about those who are living next to you right now? There are many people around who need your care and attention. Those who have died have left for another place away from you. He ended up with us and no longer received attention and care. And also no longer can take care of you. You have completed your role, and the one who left has already fulfilled his role for you. We have the emotions that always remind us of many good things we used to build together with him/her that are not easy to forget. But turn those sorrows into strength so that we can pass on good things to those who are still alive, as our continuous role and obligation.
Let go of grief and replace it with a smile with those who are alive next to you, are building your destiny together: they may be your husband, wife, parents, children, siblings and friends…etc. People need a smile from us. Even ourselves need to receive a smile from us as the energy from the depths of our hearts that helps lead our lives to grow strong and hopeful.
Farewell to Worries/ Anxiety: Many people are struggling with debt and other unresolved issues. One of them may be you. There are many issues related to the future that need to be addressed now. Some do not have enough income for a living or who have many children to feed. Some have to relocate or migrate to make money. Others have physical illnesses that need to be treated, and their life will not last long.
Of course! Stress and anxiety are slowly taking away our hope and happiness, until at some point we may not even be able to stand up. It is not too late now to look at a new hope. God is our hope. He does not abandon us and always knows the problems we are going through. While we are still in the womb, God has already determined our destiny. Therefore, when the situation we are in trouble, do not worry or anxious. Of course, we need to do our best to solve the problem, but do not forget that our enemies want to knock us to sleep in this place. The enemy does not want God's plan to be fulfilled in our lives because he knows that God’s plan for us is always good and the enemy's goal is to steal and kill our destiny. God does not fail. Let's allow Him to guide us so that He does not permit our enemies to cause us distress, anxiety, or intimidation in our lives.
Whether we face big or small problems, we must realize that life is a trial and that we can achieve the end result. Whatever the outcome, we know that in the hands of God He is the Judge, no matter how great the concern for each of us, He is still just to all of us, and if there is any injustice He will restore justice, He will repay us. Anxiety does not alleviate the cost of living or solve the debt and other problems we are facing. Only by trying to find a way, and if He is with us, we will always have strong reliance on His wisdom and solutions. He always wants his children to live in peace and tranquility, both physical and emotional. Let us reach out to Him now and let go of all worries!
As long as we try to embrace worries, our lives and our destiny are alienated from God's perfect plan. Many people end up, leaving only their bodies or corpses and many bitter memories behind, passed on to children and future generations. That is because they did not remove all the bad memories of their lifetime until they died. But that is not the purpose of us as human beings. Our goal is to provide a great legacy of great work, great smiles, great images, and all valuable ideas that the children should continue to embrace. When a person dies, they are never amazed at the bad history they have left behind to the next generation. He is always admired for his good example and character, strength, perseverance, dignity, overcoming problems, having the courage to live honestly and for the good that he does for his family and others. And all of that is a highly self-sacrificing attitude that God has placed in all of our lives.
The past is only a picture to remind us of, but we cannot choose to live with the past. We must live for the present and the future because this is an opportunity to build a new life for the rest of the time on earth.
If you want to remember the past, the only thing that does not disappoint us is the event that gives new decisions that bring hope in the present. More than two thousand years ago, Jesus came to die on the cross to pay the penalty for our sins. That is an important past event that has brought new life and hope and for the future of all of us to remember.
Writer: Chin Soksan
English Editor: Darryl Record
